All want to be happy. Is it possible to be happy if you are sick? I doubt it. From this a simple conclusion follows, that one of the components of happiness is health A health -.. is, first of all, the physical condition of the body, but plays an important role and the moral and emotional health, ie health thoughts, feelings and emotionsthat.
Already it is no secret the vast majority of “bodily” (physical) diseases arise from and our fears and grievances, irritation and anger, unfulfilled hopes and expectations, that is, because of our emotions, thoughts and feelings.
More recently, “official” medicine accepted this fact, calling the causes of many diseases “psychosomatic” (resulting from the influence per person of various psychological factors.) The term “psychosomatics” is formed from two Greek words “psyche” – soul and “soma” – body, that is, it describes the connection between our physical body and our soul (or subconscious).
The cause of illness can often be things that are not directly related either to the body or to its behavior (lifestyle). But the connection between the way of thinking and health, of course, is.
It happens that the cause of the disease lies in some of our beliefs, which, arising in response to a situation that occurred, perhaps a very long time ago, settled in us and now creates this disease, thus trying to protect us from something that, according to our subconscious is dangerous for us. We’ll talk about this next time.
Another of the most common psychosomatic causes leading to various diseases lies in the area of our feelings and emotions.
This is an insult … Psychology classifies this feeling as negative. Moreover, in contrast, for example, from another negative feeling – anger, resentment is a passive feeling, i.e. not having an external manifestation. Therefore, if anger and anger, being active feelings, manifest outside and thus leave our body, then resentment settles in us, continuing to destroy from the inside.
It is important to remember that resentment is always a decision that we have made: we are not offended, but we are offended. And only we have the right to decide and decide when and on what (or on whom) to be offended, but on what (or on whom) – not. Thus, resentment is an exclusively personal feeling, which, having settled in us, becomes the cause of many diseases: starting from the common cold (often teardrops are expressed in this way) and ending with cancer.
I will give an example. Somehow I met with my mistress. During the time that we had not seen, she had many far from joyous events: her husband unexpectedly died at the age of 52, and after a short time she fell ill with thyroid cancer. And shortly before this conversation I read a book by Liz Burbo “Your body says,“ Love yourself! ”.. So, she begins to tell me about the events that happened in her life, and I tell her that cancer is an insult, and since the thyroid gland – this is an organ that regulates the state of the physical body through the production of hormones (forgive the doctors for such a free interpretation of the functions of this organ), then its insult, apparently, is an insult to life.
To which she very clearly answers me: “this is all garbage. I just got sick and that’s it. ” But literally after 10-15 minutes she continues her story in this vein: “You know, when my husband died, I was so shocked, I was so offended. He was still not old at all. And he left me alone, it’s so insulting .. ”So she spoke out her problem …
Sometimes you just need to listen, because a story like this is far from the only one. Very often, stopping people complaining about an illness with a question about the possible cause of this illness, I, along with their fierce protests that all this psychosomatics are “nonsense”, get an answer. The answer that the speaker does not always immediately understand and realize. He just says something, and then he is very surprised how he said this and most importantly why …
Not always, of course everything happens so literally. But you can almost always find the answer if you want to. This can be done both with the involvement of a specialist, and without it.
A lot of books have been written about the influence of the relationship between body and soul (or subconscious mind): Russian author Vladimir Sinelnikov and American Liz Burbo wrote about this. Perhaps one of the techniques described in these books will suit you.
I’ll give you a couple of techniques that I use myself:
Sit in a secluded place, focus on your breathing, try to slow it down as much as possible. Breathe deeply and slowly for a while, and then mentally ask yourself the cause of the disease you have. Keep breathing and after a while you will “hear” the answer. How? Some thought will come to your head that you will not doubt. The absence of doubt is generally an excellent indicator of truth. If there is doubt, then this is not what is needed. When you realize what you need, there will be no doubt. You will know for sure that this is the answer.
If this method seems complicated to someone, you can try armed with paper and a pen (this is important!), Again find a secluded place where no one will bother you and, having designated for yourself the name of the disease or other problem that you want to solve, start consistently answer the following questions:
– when did the disease begin or when did the problem arise?
– What kind of people were near me at this moment, how did they behave towards me or what events were happening?
– How did I react to these people or to these events? What did I think of them, what did I feel?
– how did I express it?
As a rule, the answer to the last two questions is the reason, because very often the offense is the reaction to the behavior of people or to an event.
What to do next with this information? You decide!
Understanding the cause is the first step. It is also important to decide what to do with this reason: you can ignore the answers and continue to suffer, or you can try to get rid of the disease (or problem). When deciding on deliverance, you need to be careful, because our subconscious, which created the disease, will desperately resist any attempts to change something. Therefore, your decision to rid yourself of a disease (or problem) should be a solid one.
But the most important step is to accept yourself, your feelings and emotions, as well as letting yourself have these feelings and emotions. In no case should one be angry with oneself; this will create even greater problems. Allow yourself to be imperfect – this is normal I will say a banality, but: accepting yourself as you are, is already able to solve most of the problems associated with the health of the physical body.
It is also important to forgive: both yourself and the offender. Remember that this offender is always an imaginary person, because, I repeat: you decide to take offense or not.
We know the stories of people who defeated their illness, as well as the stories of people who continue to suffer. Why was someone able to get rid of the disease, but someone was not? Is the reason only in the strength of the immune system? Hardly. Probably the person who conquered the disease got rid of his mental-emotional reason, which led him to the disease, and the sick person could not do this.
I would like to conclude my story with William Schwebel’s quote: “Emotions pass over time, but what they have done remains.”